Emotional Mastery
Sacral Chakra
Emotional Mastery
The Launch Party
I joined recently the Polyworks Studio at Skipton, North Yorkshire, UK. We did an opening party on the 4th of December 2025, where each of the team delivered a mini session. I delivered 6 mini Shamanic drumming sessions. I was super impressed when a few men entered through the door. And something beautiful happened…
They softened. Not in weakness — in presence. They allowed themselves to feel, to reconnect, to listen to the rhythm inside their own bodies. But the miracle did not stop there...as the studio is spacious we managed to gather one on one and the opening that came out was astonishing. We spoke about sound bowls; sound energy; astro-travel; light body; self healing and managing anger and emotions through meditation and breathwork; energy focus; lucid dreaming and manifesting; starseeds; drumming in nature and healing; art .... and then some of them started opening and the traumas and the heavy load started to get out. The conversation deepen, the eyes started to light up and they felt understood and safe and nurtured. The gratitude was expressed through the shift of their energy and words straight away. I felt truly blessed to hold a space for them and help them download and untangle that heavy knot that was secretly hidden inside of them, so their life can proceed with more clarity, peace and joy.
The interesting bit for me was that two of them were father and son and I did not know that until later when they revealed it. But while drumming I felt a deep energy thread connection between both of them mainly going from the father to the son. Both with very different energy but intertwined invisibly. Each of us as a child of our parents is connected energetically to both parents, grandparents and 7 generations down and up the line. This connection affect us to some degrees on all levels of existence - physical, energetical, emotional, mental and spiritual. This connection can heal us and can be heavy and unneeded at times. It carries very important ancestral lineage knowledge and skills that one can tap into through the memory during meditation, prayer or journeying.
As a mother to two boys, watching men choose self-care moves me deeply. Because this is the world I want them to grow up in: A world where men can breathe, release, express, and rise. The space for meaningful conversations is always open at home. How is it at your home? Do you communicate on the 'difficult' topics? Do you have some topics that are not 'allowed' to be discussed? What if these topics are the one that keep the heavy emotional and mental load on the back of your child, husband, wife, parents or colleagues? What IF you open the door and just meet the other half where they are, and as they are, and just accept whatever comes out without judgment?
The Story of Emotional Mastery
Emotions have the power to destroy and create worlds. They are the engine that moves everything in existence - from the invisible world to the visible, from idea to full bloom. They are the engine that destroy everything - from peace to anger, from life to death. Emotional mastery is the most difficult and the most important skill that one can ever posses. Emotions can be positive and negative or neutral. How you manage your emotions is a matter of inner choice that gives external results. Let me share a recent story.
It was a week in October 2025, a beautiful rainy Autumn day. I went to pick up my boys from school as usual and when the little one entered the car with blue eyelid (slightly visible) I asked him what has happened today at school again. He told me how that boy punched him again but this time straight into the eye. I asked him what he did in response.
He said - 'Nothing. I just stood there.'.
Me - 'Why you never return back? Are you scared?
He - 'No, mum. It is because you do not allow me to hurt people back and I can got into trouble from the teachers.'
Me - ' Was I there?'
He - 'No.'
Me - 'Were the teachers there?'
He - 'No.'
Me - 'So if none of us were there why you did not return back? No one would have seen you.'
He started telling me how he will punch the boy back after school at the neighborhood, but only if I allow it. I looked at him and asked him - 'How hurting someone will make you feel?'
He said - 'Good! I will finally show him that I am strong. I will beat him up and will feel good!'
Me - 'How did you feel when he punched you? Was it painful? Did it feel good?'
He said that it was a baby punch but his eye started to water. But it did not bother him. I kept asking questions about the emotional feelings that he experienced. And I asked him what made him think that he is weak? And why he should show his strength to someone though punching? And I asked him:
'Do you know that you are a lot more stronger that that boy? Do you know that you are actually a lot more stronger than me. I could have possibly hit straight back. Do you know that you are a lot more stronger than most of the adults on the planet? Do you know that the real strength and mastery is not in hitting back and hurting and it is in staying strong in the turbulent times, being calm and still? You have so much strength. This boy will need years to come to your maturity and understanding and strength. You do not need to fall at his level to show him strength. He needs to learn and catch up with you. One day you will understand it and he will too, I hope so. Would you like me to tell you a real story about emotional mastery? One that happened a long time ago. A the time before you and your brother to join us on our life journey?'
My child was surprised to hear that he was stronger. We discussed it with him and I asked him if he is aware of his mental powers. He has the ability to drive people mad during argument as he is highly intelligent. His answer surprised me as he said that he knows about these powers. He said that every time people go to hit him he uses his words and wizz them up even more and then they hit him even more. He said they cannot withstand his talk and go out of control. So I greeted him for the fact that he is aware of his powers. And I suggested that he should use them to create friends and calm the fire down instead of the other way round. And I decided to share a story with him. A story about a human life I have saved.
Be The Light
It was the year of 2008. Me and my current husband just started our journey around the world. The first country we stopped to live and work was Cyprus. We are both hard and outstanding workers. We worked in one of the best flower farms in Cyprus. The farm was looking after baby plants, massive trees, making bouquets and flower arrangements for celebrations and big weddings, and taking care for arranging the landscapes of hotels and private homes including irrigational systems. We were living in a shared accommodation with another young couple and one more person - ex military. All of us were Bulgarians. I was 25 years old and my husband 30. Everything was great for a start until one day the other couple started to argue. The argue converted in light fight and then he grabbed a knife... and put it on his girlfriend's throat. We were shocked. All of us watching. My partner is of a very calm personality, ex security guard raised by a Mayor (military) father. He is very disciplined and his self-control is beyond exceptional. On the other hand I am over emotional and pretty natural, open, straight forward in expressing my emotions and mind. Whatever is inside, so is outside. My mum used to say that I do not have front teeth. :-)))
At the same time I am very nurturing and caring and respect, and accept the human life and beings in all their forms, shapes and mentality. I do think fast and my courage attitude throw me straight into the fire - straight through it baby...
My husband will not attack or step in with force. He will find a way to tackle it calmly and me, I used my best asset - my mind. I started talking with the boy and out of a sudden I was under the knife as well. Then we all chatted and he removed the knife eventually. My husband took it away. But this was only the beginning. There were a few more occasions and the police got involved on a few of them. The girl was slightly older than me with two kids from a previous marriage. She was very scared as that boy was threatening her and her kids. He was playing mental game with her. He was mentally unstable and was jealousing her over made up stories created only in his mind, without any external reason. She was a hard worker and used to do overtime work and he was making up stories. Luckily her kids were not there. They were safe with the girl's parents in Bulgaria. During the day while we were working together I had time to speak with her. I managed to empower her and encouraged her to act - to escape. I created a plan of her escape. The boy did took her passport so I did helped with that as well. I ordered her the tickets to Bulgaria, the taxi and arranged everything necessary. Even I covered her in front of the employer. They knew about the situation and helped out slightly. For me was not only important she to escape, but it was important she to feel safe for herself and her kids and to continue her life. And she did! I am so happy for that. She found a new partner, got happily married and they have a child of their own. I saw her in 2023 and she thanked me that I have saved her life. Until that meeting I did not think of it as something big or special. But I was in deep reflection mode that year and I really felt warm and great inside for the fact that I have saved a human life and that this human carried on with life and gave birth to another life. As for the boy we lived with him for a bit until we left Cyprus. After she was gone he calm down.
After I finished with the story I said to my boy that the real strength is not in hurting people back and it is in the way you use your mind and turn an enemy into a friend and make them feel valued. Some souls sometimes loose the path to light as there is too much darkness around them and this is why we are here to remind them and enlighten their way forward but not with hurt; and with nurture, deeply rooted and grounded into our power. The powerful being is not the one who destroy the world and he is the one who can outstand the hurricanes, observe and let them pass and be there in the stillness lighting the way for others in their darkness while they start to spread their light.
I am not sure if my boy understood the full meaning of the story and the choices that we have to do in our hardest moments but I am sure that eventually he will get it and he sensed it. He is already stronger than me and 80% of the population. He already makes the right choices when no one is watching. And that talks in volume. Just that we need to work on removing the negative traces of the build up emotions and to help him realize his power in full and how to use it in his benefit not the other way around.
Parenting has taught me some of the most profound lessons on emotional intelligence. Self-control is not suppression; it’s conscious direction. Desire is human. Discipline is growth. Emotional mastery is freedom.
And it’s something we all learn, at every age.
Testimonial from the Drumming Session
Testimonial from Paul Anthony:
I recently had my first shamanic drumming meditation session, and it was an incredibly grounding and transformative experience. The space was beautifully set with crystals, incense, and soft candlelight, creating a calming atmosphere the moment I lay down. As the rhythmic drumming began, Radka guided us gently and professionally, helping me slip into a deep, floating relaxation where I felt as though I were drifting peacefully in still water. Her soothing words led me into a vivid inner journey down a quiet forest stream surrounded by trees and animals, where a stag and a deer appeared with a sense of quiet significance. At the end, I drew my spiritual guide card—El Morya—which felt perfectly aligned with the safety, clarity, and protective energy I experienced throughout the session. I left feeling relaxed, positive, and deeply supported. Look forward to another session with Radka.
Reflection Time
How do you manage your emotions? Do you react or respond when in real situation? Do you use your intellect to calm the other side or you wizz it up?
How do you process the build up emotions after that? Do you reflect on the situation? Do you speak with someone on it or you work it out inside alone?
How do you handle anger? What about jealousy? What about sexual desire?
Would you trust again and carry on life after an abusive relationship? Would you give yourself another chance?
What did you learn from my sharing today? What will you change in your life from now on? What will you change in the conversations with your kids, partner or yourself, if anything at all?
When you are ready to unload and share your story, I am here to listen. Join me in person or online. This website, blog, membership, products and programs are all designed to be of support to you. I walked the way alone and I know how hard it can be. Now I am here for you. Reach out when you are ready.
Radka
P.S. Massive gratitude to Robyn Beck Photography for all of the photos during the launch. All of the pictures in this article except one are taken from her. She is exceptional photographer and lovely person. I cannot recommend her enough. To book a photo session with her please visit:
